The Choice Point

I can remember a time when it didn't seem like I would EVER become aware of the choice point, that moment in which we can see the ways in which we sabotage our own happiness BEFORE we take that path. People told me that I could. I wanted to believe I could. But it didn't seem that I could. Conditioning runs so deep that it takes practice and stumbling and practicing more to change a pattern. Sometimes, it doesn't seem possible. But it is. If it's possible for anyone, it's possible for everyone. You are not the exception. It only appears to be distant. That's a perceptual illusion. Believe in yourself and your process. And if you can't find any belief of your own, you can borrow mine until you do. I believe in you! You can do it!

Pride or Preciousness?

What is the difference between bragging on ourselves and realizing our magnificence? I believe it comes down to ego. Bragging on ourselves is usually a cover-up for feeling a lack of worth. Realizing our magnificence does not involve ego. It feels good, but there is nothing to be proud of. We just are what we are, and it is magnificent. :)

How Ridiculous is This?

As I was wondering why it seems so difficult for some of us to find a soul mate, it hit me that perhaps we are setting our sights too low. This desire may not be big enough for our souls.

The soul's desire is for expansion. Perhaps it is difficult to go deep with more than one person, but it is also true that we cannot confine a heart without shutting it down.

It feels like we have outgrown the paradigm of loving only one person. It serves us to begin exploring what we are growing into. I still get the pair-bonding thing, but how much of it is genuine and how much is left-over conditioning? I envision us evolving to the place where our hearts are open to truly love everyone, even if we choose to go deep with only one person at a time.

After all, the hippies were right about free love. Love should never be a prison. It's just that what they were practicing often wasn't love. In too many instances, people were using one another's bodies as sex toys. Unconsciousness is what kept evolution in check at that time. But today, more of us are more awake than ever.

In order to go deep in intimacy, it is necessary to give time and attention to the living thing that is the love between two people. But perhaps we'll grow richer in attention as we realize our freedom. As long as people are pair-bonding though, my heart would love to see more people doing so consciously, realizing the love between them is a living thing and will only thrive with loving attention.

Let's do this!